The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands, by Laura Schlessinger

The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands, by Laura Schlessinger

The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands is based on the premise that men are simple and rather stupid. The thesis then, on that basis, is “give him direct communication, respect, appreciation, food, and good lovin’, and he’ll do just about anything you wish–foolish or not.”

Dr. Laura Schlessinger demeans men throughout the book, constantly noting that a man is “inexorably dependent upon the approval, appreciation, and acceptance” of the woman. That may be true, but his self-worth is and should be based on more than that.

The book also blames women for every marital ill–real or imagined. Woman are even blamed when men have affairs, view pornography, neglect their responsibilities at home, or abandon their families.

I do have to admit that the book, and therefore Dr. Laura, does have some good points about the damaging effects of the feminist movement. Also, some of the advice about husbands is well taken, if taken and used in small doses.

However, I lost all regard for the book in the chapter on marital sex. Dr. Laura argued that a wife should “be expected to have sex when [she doesn’t] want to just because he wants to.” This is because the wife expects “him to go to work and earn money to support the family even on days he didn’t feel like it.” Wow. Dr. Laura also noted that housekeeping and childrearing are not personal enough to repay a husband for his hard work. However, she ignores the corollary: that working and protecting are not personal enough to repay a wife for her work.

In short, this book is overly simplistic, narrowly constructed, and over-rated.

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