It Sucked and Then I Cried, by Heather B. Armstrong

May 6, 2009

in Non-Fiction, Reviews

Title: It Sucked and Then I Cried: How I Had a Baby, a Breakdown, and a Much Needed Margarita
Author: Heather B. Armstrong
Pages: 272
Publisher: Simon Spotlight Entertainment
Copyright: 2009
Format: Hardback
Rating: ★★★★☆

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I’ve been an avid reader of Dooce for over a year. I’m addicted to that blog. It makes me alternately laugh out loud, purchase new, funky items, and tear up with emotion. So, when everyone at work was talking about the book written by the Dooce creator, Heather B. Armstrong, I knew I had to read it.

For those of you not addicted to Dooce, Armstrong has been a blogger for almost ten years. She actually got fired from a job because of the items she posted about that job. (Now getting fired because of internet content is called being “dooced.”) Anyway, Armstrong was raised in Tennessee as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints (Mormon), graduated from Brigham Young University, rebelled, eventually eloped with her husband Jon, relocated to Utah, and had a baby, Leta. It Sucked and Then I Cried is about an eighteen-month period in Armstrong’s life – the nine months of pregnancy and the nine-month aftermath.

I must say that Armstrong is hil-ar-i-ous. Truly funny. She sees the world in a skewed way. I laughed out loud throughout. Out loud. In public places. Just a warning. Perhaps this is best read at home. Here’s a little taste of the hilarity. This is number one on the list of things Armstrong learned in the first week as a parent:

A good day was defined entirely by personal hygiene.  Brushing my teeth = pretty good day.  Brushing my teeth + brushing my hair = I was doing really good.  Brushing my teeth + brushing my hair + taking a shower = WORLD DOMINATION.  I believed that if I could get all the way to putting on mascara that I’d be magnificent enough to create my own planet and populate it with bears.

See what I mean? And that is mild hilarity.  You’ll find all ranges of hilarity in this book.  Now, I must say that, though I thoroughly enjoyed the book, it did suffer from some common memoir issues. There were a lot of non-sequiturs. A lot of them – though most of them didn’t bother me until I went back and reread sections. And, the general plot arch was a little flat. For example, there was a lot of build up to Armstrong’s hospitalization for postpartum depression, but then very little detail or anecdotes about it. It was a bit of a let down, simply because of the build up. Also, the repeated banging and hollering about Mormons and Republicans got old really fast. And, because of her avid descriptions, I’m now petrified to have a baby.

Still, this was a very honest, thoughtful book. Probably the best memoir I’ve ever read. I highly recommend it and Dooce.

It Sucked and Then I Cried, by Heather B. Armstrong ★★★★☆

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1 Rebecca Reid May 6, 2009 at 5:49 am

I don’t particularly like Dooce the website. I find it annoyingly whiny. And since I’m LDS, I hate her constant complaining and belittling of my religion. Not for me.

As for the baby thing. For me, it wasn’t so bad (or maybe I’ve forgotten). But I love my little once so it was 100% worth it!

2 Tricia May 6, 2009 at 6:01 am

I’ve tried reading her site a couple of times. There’s just something that really bugs me about her making so much money off a website where she spends a great deal of time railing against things that are deeply important to me. Sometimes I think she just lives in Utah to give herself more fodder for her writing. I will admit she’s got a wicked sense of humor though.

3 Loren Eaton May 6, 2009 at 6:12 am

My wife is rounding out (no pun intended) her second trimester. Maybe I should get this for her.

4 Kathy May 6, 2009 at 6:49 am

This sounds like great fun! I’m adding it to my wish list.

5 Fern May 6, 2009 at 9:38 am

I love Dooce and I’d love to read this book but can’t afford to buy new books (okay, I could afford to buy myself one, but if I buy *one*, what about all the others that I want?!). Guess I’ll just have to wait for library/bookmooch.

6 Jessica May 6, 2009 at 10:42 am

Rebecca – I’m Mormon, too, and her rantings about it just seem staged for effect, so they don’t bother me too much. As for the baby thing, I’m so glad to hear that it wasn’t so bad for you!

Tricia – I love the sense of humor, but agree with you about the fodder. I just get bored with the repetition. We get it; she doesn’t like the Mormon religion.

Loren – Congratulations on the impending baby! I would wait a while before giving this to your wife. Otherwise you might traumatize her. :)

Kathy – It is fun! Lots of fun and funny.

Fern – I hear you about the new hardback books. My coworker loaned it it to me.

7 Kim L May 6, 2009 at 8:30 pm

Sounds like a really funny read! I always admire when authors can turn depressing events into something that does make the reader laugh out loud.

8 Jodie May 7, 2009 at 3:16 am

Poulate it with bears? That’s a planet I want to live on.

9 Jessica May 7, 2009 at 11:34 am

Kim – I think it takes a lot of perspective to do so. :)

Jodie – Me too!

10 Kelly May 7, 2009 at 8:00 pm

Sounds great. That one’s going on my list! I know what you mean about memoirs making you scared to have a baby. They did me too, but then I went and did it anyway. :-) I can’t say I wasn’t warned!

11 Natasha @ Maw Books May 13, 2009 at 9:29 pm

I really don’t keep up with her website and I’ve wondered if I would like her book. But I don’t know if this is the type of book for me.

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